The Messy Middle is Real: Navigating Change, Chaos, and Growth

My husband and I made the decision last year to move. We prepped and planned and dreamed and scheduled and made all the arrangements, and now it’s here.

When we made the decision to move, it was exciting. It felt brave and full of adventure. When I think of where we’re going, it smells delicious.

The peace we’ve created on the other side feels amazing.

Welcome to the Messy Middle

But oh my gosh, this transition feels disgustingly uncomfortable. We’re in this gross and uncomfortable place that people often refer to as the “messy middle.”

And while I am so darn uncomfortable right now, I’m also incredibly proud of the training and practice I’ve had up to this point. So I’m giving myself a bit of credit too.

Small Wins That Actually Matter

The other day when I felt exhausted, I went outside and practiced a regulation technique instead of pushing through. When I almost had a mental breakdown about what the hell we’re doing with our lives, I reminded myself that my husband and I are actually really freaking good at this stuff. This is where the growth happens. And as my daughters ramp up their angst with one another, I remember that this change is happening to them too. They need some extra love and support, just like I do.

When Everything Feels New and Nothing Feels Normal

My nervous system is desperately trying to grasp a sense of normalcy while every day feels different.

And now, while we are changing our entire lives, I’m reminded of the work I’ve done to get more organized in my home. I used to be desperate for it to just be done. But Instagram only shows the pretty before and after pictures. People forget to talk about the real stuff. The mess.

The setbacks.

The emotions.

The change.

How deeply uncomfortable it really is.

Still Worth It

But it is one million percent worth it.

So I’m reminding myself now that this work is worth it.

There is growth in the discomfort.

And there’s not a single memory I don’t get to bring with me as I lighten the load and make space for so many more memories in the future.

After all, my family is what makes me feel like home.

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Megs is the creator of the Organizing an ADHD Brain Podcast, where she helps women with ADHD and other neurodivergent folks declutter their homes and routines without shame. Her work is rooted in lived experience, gentle honesty, and the belief that small steps count. She’s here for the real-life version of organizing—the one that makes room for joy, rest, and a little bit of chaos. Want to work with Megs? Learn more about the many ways to connect and find the right fit for where you are in your organizing journey.